Pertanyaan: Jika seorang suami ingin poligami. Dia bilang ingin menikah lagi jika dia punya lebih banyak waktu luang di masa mendatang bagi kedua istrinya. Apakah boleh bagi istri pertama untuk berdoa agar suaminya berubah pikiran (tidak lagi ingin poligami) karena dia ingin menjadi satu-satunya istri di kehidupan suaminya dan karena si istri merasa tidak tahan harus berbagi suami? Perlu diketahui bahwa sang suami sendiri belum yakin tentang hal itu karena jam kerjanya saat ini begitu banyak. Tetapi jika jam kerjanya berkurang, dia ingin poligami, dan bolehkah istri berdoa agar suami tidak poligami?
Jawaban oleh tim fatwa Asy-Syabakah Al-Islamiyah yang diketuai oleh Syaikh Abdullah Al-Faqih Asy-Syinqitti hafizahullah.
Segala puji hanya milik Allah. Selawat dan salam kepada Rasulullah ﷺ, keluarganya, sahabatnya, dan seluruh pengikutnya hingga di akhir zaman.
Menurut kami, wallahu’alam, boleh bagi seorang wanita berdoa agar suaminya tidak poligami atau menikah dengan istri kedua, karena di dalam doa seperti itu tidak ada unsur kezaliman.
Ada sebuah hadis yang diriwayatkan oleh imam Muslim dari Abu Hurairah Radhiyallahu Anhu bahwa Rasulullah ﷺ bersabda:
Doa seorang hamba akan senantiasa dikabulkan selama dia tidak berdoa (meminta) sesuatu yang dosa, atau di dalamnya terkandung unsur memutus silaturahmi, juga selama dia tidak terburu-buru, (Sahih Muslim: 2735).
Syaikh Abdul Karim Al-Khudair Rahimahullah pernah ditanya tentang hal ini, kemudian beliau menjawab bahwa hal itu (istri berdoa agar suami tidak poligami) hukumnya boleh.
Wallahu’alam bish shawwab
Fatwa No: 473983
Tanggal: 11 April 2023 M (21 Ramadan 1444 H)
Sumber: Asy-Syabakah Al-Islamiyah
Penerjemah: Irfan Nugroho (Staf Pengajar PPTQ At-Taqwa Nguter Sukoharjo)
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Question: If a husband is interested in polygamy and says that he may go for it if he gets more free time in future for two wives then is it permissible for the wife to make duaa that her husband changes his mind as she wants to remain as only wife of his in their married life and can’t bear sharing him? he’s still not sure due to his work hours being more but he may go for it if work hours reduce and the wife wants him to change his mind.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.
It seems to us (Allah knows best) that it is permissible for a woman to supplicate that her husband does not marry a second wife, as there is no sin or aggression in it.
A hadeeth reads, “The supplication of a slave continues to be granted as long as he does not supplicate for a sinful thing or for something that would cut off the ties of kinship.” [Muslim]
Sheikh Abdul Kareem Al-Khudair may Allaah have mercy upon him was asked about this matter, and he answered that it is permissible.
And Allah knows best.
